Many of us suffer from it, but it is rarely brought up, or even given a name. The quick definition is, a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. And for women especially, we tend to take this to heart, by staying in bad situations too long (remember that awful job, anyone?) or working too hard. Then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy filled with stress and eventual burnout.
Thankfully, Neha Batra has an action plan to rethink and recenter this conversation, rather than the usual platitudes. Because, at the end of the day, we all have something to say. We’re all experts. Recognizing this and owning it will take you much farther than never trying at all.
First, recognize the language you use with yourself. Thinking you’re lucky or just “fell into this,” isn’t really the self-talk you need. Next, separate facts from feelings – what would make it a good thing if it happened? Would it be good for your career, your client prospects?
Analyze the facts of your situation: What makes you qualified to do this talk, or to apply this job? Make a list of your accomplishments, the programming languages you know, the experiences that have brought you here. And, rewire; keep in mind, what’s the worst that could happen? I’ve heard it again and again (and again today) that your audience wants the best from you, they want to see you succeed. More often than not, you have something to share that others can benefit from, at any skill level. Is your perspective on an issue unique? Think about giving back to the community and those who are before you. Newbies can learn from pros, and vice versa.
Probably most important, do it. Put yourself out there, and try it. All the work to this point doesn’t mean much if you don’t step up and take the chance.
Finally, reflect once it’s over Were you right? What can you walk with with, for the future? And don’t forget to celebrate: You’ve accomplished something for yourself, and for your audience. And that’s reality.
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